HOLY SHIT YES YES YES
it’s also SUCH a reverse victimization thing like
when ~antiracist allies~ say this shit it always includes this sort of faux-self-deprecating element
and intentionally or not, there’s the implication that we white people in general are being ~silenced~ by the ~cruel~ person of color, and that ~oh no we’ve been taught to hate ourselves for our whiteness and believe all these self-deprecating things~ which of course is EXACTLY the white guilt script that more blatantly racist whites looking at this will want to see as more ‘justification’ to dismiss analysis of racism.
and it’s inevitably framing people of color as mean or angry or ~reverse racist~ and ourselves as beleaguered; it’s inevitably fishing for compliments, for coddling, for having the conversation recentered around us and derailing the actual conversation taking place.
Dian Pelangi, Indonesian fashion designer.
what if the coins you find randomly at the bottom of drawers and in between couch cushions are actually from spiders trying to pay rent
|—||Judith Herman in Trauma and Recovery (via aloegoo)|
“The illustrations cover a variety of topics including Seo’s cat Jimmy, everyday life situations, and a peek into the amusing aspects of a long distance relationship. You’ll giggle and probably say “D’aww” to yourself more than once.” — Amy Ratcliffe, Nerdist
Read the rest of the review right here!
So whitemanmarchprotestsigns is trending on twitter and I thought I’d share some of my favorites. Part 1 of 2.
LOL, except for the last one, which used ableist language.
"A Sticky Situation" (1960) by Carl Barks
I like how advertising is literally still exactly as sexist as they’re joking about in this comic from 54 years ago.
People who offer crap advice aren’t necessarily bad people. They just can’t help themselves. It’s a disease, like leukemia or sex addiction or all those Fast & Furious movies. But the obsessive compulsion to give crap advice should not make it socially acceptable.
Real advice, regardless of whether it is good or bad, is a verb. It’s someone doing something. Real advice starts with “I’m going to…” Crap advice starts with “You should…”
"There is a myth that people who give crap advice “mean well”. They don’t. Crap advice is a passive-aggressive mark of control; it’s an attempt at dominance. If someone is trying to get his or her novel published, and you give them the contact information for your step-mother’s brother who is a literary agent, then you mean well. Now, the advice might not work out. Maybe your step-mother’s agent brother doesn’t like your novel. Or maybe he isn’t interested in reading it. But you gave this person the information. You tried. You meant well. But if someone is trying to get his or her novel published, and you say, “You know what you should do? You should write a query letter and send it out to agents,” then you don’t mean well. Obviously, someone who has taken the time to write a novel knows that there are these things called “letters” and “agents”. And, if someone has taken the time to write a novel, I bet, even before coming to you, they’ve already sent out many query letters to agents. No, when a crap advice giver speaks, it’s a not-so-subtle way of saying, “I’m better than you. That’s why I can waste your time with pointless words. Because even though you’re not getting anything out of this conversation, it makes me feel knowledgeable and superior. So my time is being satisfied. And my time is worth more than yours.” “